"So sensitive" is not a harassment defense

"So sensitive."

That was a television network owner's reply after a pastor told him, in writing, to stop sending a meme the pastor called racist. It's also a terrible defense to a harassment claim.

Bishop George Bloomer (Black) hosted a show on the Word Network, owned by Kevin Adell (White). Adell showed Bloomer a meme of the network's preachers, drawn as tiny figures, surrounding Adell dressed as a pimp. Bloomer texted back that it was "not funny" and compared it to putting a black face on a white man.

Adell kept going. He sent Bloomer's face from the meme and called him "Tattoo." He sent a photo of himself with a white man whose face was scribbled over in black marker.

Bloomer finally wrote that he was asking "for the last time." Adell answered: "OK!!!!" "Got it." "So sensitive." "WTF."

Bloomer later quit and sued for race discrimination and harassment. The court has already held that Adell's taunting after Bloomer objection is direct evidence of racial animus. A federal court jury is currently hearing the evidence, and it will have the final say as to whether that direct evidence supports a verdict in Bloomer's favor.

Adell's defense at trial is essentially friendship. His lawyer says the two men teased each other for years. Adell testified that Bloomer ribbed him about his clothes and his Jewish heritage, and "I didn't take offense to it." His lawyer's summary: "They both crossed the line."

Notice that framing, and what it asks the jury to ignore.

Harassment has to be unwelcome, and the test is what the plaintiff found unwelcome, not what the defendant can tolerate. Adell's thick skin doesn't set Bloomer's limit. And Bloomer told him where it was, in writing.

Banter may explain showing him the meme. It doesn't explain the texts after he was asked to 'stop.'

Every workplace has a version of this. "That's just how we joke around here." Maybe. But a history of joking doesn't turn an objection into a punchline.

Jokes are "just jokes" until they aren't. Before someone objects, a bad joke is a bad joke. After, it's evidence of intent.

If someone tells you to stop, stop. Especially if you own the place. Adell told Bloomer he "got it." He didn't. And now a jury will decide whether he pays, and how much.